There has always been a disparity between what men want in bed and what women want in bed. When it comes to choosing a partner, men and women are biologically programmed in different ways. Evolution has wired men to be aroused more visually than in any other way. Men are programmed to seek out a partner who is attractive and will take their blood line forward. Women on the other hand are wired to seek out a partner who will protect her and her children, as well as provide for them. Let’s face it, men and women want different things in bed making it difficult for one gender to understand what the other wants.
Things like talking dirty or rimming or even light bondage may turn many men on. But there are many out there who’d like to do away with certain fetishes or certain moves you think turn them on. Here’s a cheat sheet for the girls to tread cautiously on the path of great sex with your man in bed. He may like some of these or dislike all of them. The key is to try and find out what he likes instead of just jumping the gun.
Deep Throating is a concept that the adult movie industry has almost made into a norm. The look of crazy desire that the male actors have on their faces while being deep throated by their female counterparts is just some good (or not so much) piece of acting. In reality your man might not in be in favour of gagging you and letting you choke on his weener. Sure every man loves a good blow job but just don't try to take all of him in all go, just because you saw it in the movies. He might enjoy the sight of a woman gagging on screen, but in reality he might not want to see your eyes pop and dribble run down the sides of your mouth.
Dirty Talking
Again, let’s refer to the adult movies. We are overfed with scenes where the female character gets pounded by the man, or men, and yet is able to keep up a constant relay of her feelings while having the time of her life. You might think dirty talking drives your man crazy, but tread carefully there, dear ladies. He might just not be that into you asking sluttily if he is loving every little move you are making. He may just be the quiet type who digs an occasional encouragement from you, or a hearty moan to let him know whatever he is doing is floating your boat.
Foot Fetish
You may have read a lot about foot fetishes, and how guys dig licking and sucking toes - theirs’ or their partner’s, but it might not be true for your man. Of course if you like it, you can communicate it to him and see how it goes down before you get up close and personal with his toes.
The media and scores of erotic fictions released every year would have us believe that men are into
bondage and submission. That they enjoy being the dominant partner, and like their women submissive. While it might be true in some cases, there are men who still have not walked the Christian Grey way. They may just be very happy with vanilla sex. May be your man does ‘hearts and flowers’. May be he doesn't just f*ck hard. He makes love. And not by tying up his woman to the bed post. Find out what shades of sex he likes before jumping him.
Does he like Porn-a-thon with you?
May be likes to watch his porn alone. Enjoys some me-time with some beer. While many relationship experts suggest watching porn together, find out if your man is comfortable watching marathon sessions of porn with you. He may not be so comfortable with you around. Communicate the idea and see how he reacts to the suggestion. If he approves, you are in for a series of movies with naked stars leading the parade, and if he doesn't, leave him alone to enjoy his porn alone.
